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Comparison is the Thief of Joy

This week we would like to focus on “comparison being the thief of joy.’ To begin, other so called “perfection’ is most of the time an illusion. For example, social media is a huge platform where it’s easy to compare yourself with others because everything is pictures of glamour and happiness. It’s the truth, but not the “whole truth and nothing but the truth.” We may envy the smiling suntanned family we see on a tropical vacation, although we’re not privy to the fact that the 30 seconds of smiling came after three hours of squabbling and sniping. If we knew others’ whole truths, we might not feel so inadequate when comparing ourselves to their carefully crafted public images of “perfection.”

Secondly, life isn’t fair. Some people are born with more advantages than others: A perfectly symmetrical face. Rapid-fire metabolism. Wealthy parents. Social connections that help them score a coveted job. Yet when we compare ourselves (unfavorably) to others, we often beat ourselves up for not trying hard enough. Understand that you are working hard and your time will come soon. Lastly, comparison turns friends and allies into rivals. In a perfect world, we would celebrate and genuinely enjoy the joys and accomplishments of others. Yet if we use others as a benchmark to evaluate ourselves, that creeping twinge of jealousy may undermine our ability to truly cherish the good things that come to others. Just remember: Over time, things may even out, and a friend’s success may enable him or her to support and make opportunities for others (including you).

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